The hardest part of my day used to be prying my preschooler and kindergartner’s arms off my legs when I had to drop them off at school. My sons’ howls of protest hurt my heart at the same time it made me wonder what I was doing wrong or what was wrong with them. All […]
Forcing your child to behave may seem like the best approach now, but what happens when you develop a pattern of needing your child to behave for you to be calm? You then give your child tremendous power. They now have a bit of control over your emotions.
The very fact that you are reading this blog post tells me you are conscious about your parenting. I believe one of the noblest things we parents can do for this planet is to raise children who feel seen, known, and loved. I want to thank you from my heart for the thought […]
Do you want to guess how many unused spa gift certificates I have laying around somewhere? Most days, it’s just unrealistic to slip away for a half-day or more. But, hey, I’d be happy to go to the bathroom uninterrupted.
Do you ever find yourself trying to hide what’s presumptively “wrong” with your kids or your families? If so, Oh Honey, believe me when I say…you’re not alone. Perhaps you have a screaming, whining, demanding four-year-old.
Have you ever been annoyed with the younger version of yourself who made life decisions early on that are now a pain to live with? Our younger selves have such a huge impact on our education, our geographies, our career paths, our partners, how we’re willing to be treated, the roles we take on, and […]
Last week, I talked about how we cannot force our children to behave any more than someone can force us to drive the speed limit, pay our bills, or show up to work on time. Yes, there are consequences if we don’t, but can anyone really force us? Does that mean we have to surrender […]
Consequences for Children: In our fast-paced world, none of us has the time or energy to use this parenting style. Instead of approaching parenting this way, Love and Logic parents try to keep it simple. For one reason, something that is simple is something that we can remember during stressful times. Love and Logic parents find it easy to remember that anything that causes a problem for the parent drains energy from the parent. That energy needs to be replaced in some way.
Poised, charming 23-year old Annie sat on the couch in my counseling office today and told me a brilliant parenting strategy that her dad pulled on her when she was a young teen.